So, you just discovered you’re pregnant, and it wasn’t planned. Your mind is likely buzzing with countless questions, one of which could be, “How am I going to break this news to my partner?”
Taking the step to tell your partner might feel overwhelming, but there are strategies to help guide the conversation and ensure your well-being.
Why Am I Worried About Their Reaction?
To begin with, take a moment to reflect on why you’re apprehensive about their reaction. Are you worried that they will also feel scared and overwhelmed, or are you concerned about your safety?
Your personal safety is the number one priority, so it’s essential to make a contingency plan if safety is a concern for you. The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE) is there for you with professional assistance.
It may also be beneficial to confide in a trusted friend or family member and ask if they can accompany you when you share your news to add a measure of security. Also, sharing the news in a public location can help manage any potential emotional outbursts.
Get the Facts You Need
Before sharing the news with your partner it can be helpful to get vital facts about your pregnancy.
Having an ultrasound scan to learn the location, viability, and age of your pregnancy can be tremendously helpful in answering some of your questions and concerns about your pregnancy and what options are available to you.
But that information can also be very effective in answering any questions or fears that your partner might have. Having this information will also gently communicate to your partner that you are taking the pregnancy seriously and are in charge of making the best decision for your health and future.
How and Where to Share the News with My Partner?
First, remember that this is your pregnancy, and you have the right to tell others—including your partner—in your own time and on your terms.
When you are ready to tell your partner, take some time beforehand to think about how you will break the news to them. Writing down what you’re thinking and feeling, as well as how you can answer any questions you expect them to ask, can be a helpful way to organize your thoughts and prepare yourself.
Also, think about the best location to talk to your partner—pick a place where you feel comfortable. This may be a favorite coffee shop or local park. Remember, it’s your choice, so you can decide what feels best for you.
Finally, when you share the news, try to remain composed and actively listen to your partner. Allow them the space they need to process the information and figure out their feelings.
Remember, they will probably feel scared and overwhelmed, just like you first did when you found out about your pregnancy.
We Can Help
The trained staff at Salem Pregnancy Care Center knows how overwhelming an unplanned pregnancy can feel and are here to help you.
Contact us today to schedule your free and confidential appointment.
From a free ultrasound scan to provide important details about your pregnancy to answering your questions and providing helpful tips for talking to your partner, we are ready to support you and empower you to make the best decision for your future.